....So, Start Searching

It's A Myth...But Not Really

"Your respect is as high as your demand and with the love you have to give, she cant help but pause her time hoping that you will find her. You're the one good thing that's left so she has nothing but time to give. You know how to point out the worth in others but your downfall is you have yet to find the worth in yourself. To find it is to find her, so start searching.." and this is just a myth..it will never happen in the way you expect it..so be decisive..if you wanna settle, settle, if you don't wanna, keep it moving.

Reflections: Decisions When You're Young

When you're young, you just wanna have fun. Sometimes it's limitless and reckless, but it's fun, right? Well, the reality of it is that some don't make it out of the phase without long-term or even life-long reminders of where they went wrong and how they should've listened to their "mom's" wise words. But, while you contend with the "scars" from your past, where is your "party-animal" now? How has it helped you to deal with the issues? Where is the liquor? Has the dare-devil been exorcised? As far as I see it, the best way to learn if to look at the mistakes of others. 

Become familiar with the term "delayed gratification". It's not a popular term in our day, age and generation. We want it now. Instantaneously. 

I'm not gonna sit around this desk, write the blog entry and tell you that I've been this perfect person. For me to be writing this to you, it took a certain amount of experience and analysis of it to come to these conclusions. Yes, this is just a reflection on my life.So:
1. There is no halfway. You're either bad or good.
2. Mistakes are stepping stones. Become stronger from downfalls.
3. Do not worry about going slowly. Worry about being stagnant.
4. Better choices save you time, money and tears.
5. Friends MAKE you or BREAK you.

Is It What It Is? Can You Change It?

It is what it is, it's not what it's not..sometimes it also is what it's "not" and of course, sometimes it's NOT what it "is".

What am I saying? My belief in "fate" and "destiny" is really limited when I plug "freedom of choice" into the equation.

It is a fact that decision making and that factors that affect it can change the course of your life forever.

I like to liken life to my favorite sport, basketball. Basketball is a game of runs. Sometimes you're on a roll, scoring a lot of points, making good defensive plays, then the opponent either steps it up or you get complacent and you begin losing momentum, and you end up trailing and if you don't catch yourself and go on another run, you lose the game.

Pro-Basketballers have film sessions after each game, win or lose. In film sessions, they watch the tape of the game. They evaluate the game, see what could be better, and see what else they can do to exploit their opponent in the next game.

I think that in life, we should have regular film sessions. We should regularly evaluate where we are, what we're doing and what we can do to enhance our experience for best results.

In my next post I will explore how this could have helped me to avoid my latest "tragedy".

The "Whip Of Independence"

This is NOT a sexist post. You will notice that it's from my opinion as a male in the dating world.

"I don't need a man for ANYTHING"...."He's so worthless, he doesn't do....." "I don't need a man to pay for me"..."He's so f*%%$% mean, he doesn't even pay for...." "The only good men left are gay or taken".."He's just a friend though.."

By now you should figure out where this is going and if you haven't, you must have started reading this while going on or hearing on of the most common rants in recent times. 

Quite frankly, I don't intend to spend a lotta time on this and I'm not gonna go into detail. I just have a few things to say. 

Ladies, we're CONFUSED! What do you want? If you're gonna act and be all independent, why do you still expect the same from guys? If guys are constantly beaten with the "Independent Whip", what's gonna happen to our relationships?

Then I've heard the stupid argument of "It's his job to still do this!" So, what exactly is your job? To tell him just how independent you are and can be? To tell him you don't need him while he's trying his best? To remind him that although he just made the great effort to make you happy, you can just get up and leave his no-good ass just because you're independent? 

Ladies, you have to shape up. We really can't take any more from the cat-o-nine of liberation. If a man is doing a good job, commend him, suggest what he could do to enhance, but don't bash.

 Men, you have to be more reliable. Honesty is the best policy. If you can't manage the responsibility, just say so or walk away. 

There's a lotta detail missing but I'm done ranting now. As you were.

Blah.

The urgent and fervent desire to change, from thought to action it seems very strange. Epiphanies and bad decisions later, what's left of me I'm trying to savor! Time isn't running out, yet it is, I wanna close the deal, wanna be done with this. I see what pleases me well, but could it be that I'm going to hell? Avoiding reality while staring it dead-on in the eye: "I can't live without you, it'd hurt to try." My connection is severed and I can't do it by myself, yet I have to do it alone; nobody else. In the search for fulfillment I made a false start, but it would seem as though I've already given away my heart! Now what do I have to work with? Nothing at all, unless I take it back before I fall..deeper in!

Denied

The thing is, I'd do it without question, or even a second thought. But hey, that's just me. It's true what they say though. Family: Sometimes related by blood and nothing else.

What Now?

The sleepless nights to the assurance. The I love you and please buy that ring for insurance. The smile returning and the happiness at peak...everything man, week after week. Homework and the many papers completed..advice until the well was almost depleted..Where did it all go? From the rings to the dress to that matrimonial account..now you look at me with resentment, what's that about? You sold it to me, every bit of it..now I'm the one left here in this dark place to sit..you didn't even say you're sorry..I mean, you might think because I'm a guy you don't need to worry..Karma is a chick of deviant character..so watch what you do and watch what comes after!