The "Whip Of Independence"

This is NOT a sexist post. You will notice that it's from my opinion as a male in the dating world.

"I don't need a man for ANYTHING"...."He's so worthless, he doesn't do....." "I don't need a man to pay for me"..."He's so f*%%$% mean, he doesn't even pay for...." "The only good men left are gay or taken".."He's just a friend though.."

By now you should figure out where this is going and if you haven't, you must have started reading this while going on or hearing on of the most common rants in recent times. 

Quite frankly, I don't intend to spend a lotta time on this and I'm not gonna go into detail. I just have a few things to say. 

Ladies, we're CONFUSED! What do you want? If you're gonna act and be all independent, why do you still expect the same from guys? If guys are constantly beaten with the "Independent Whip", what's gonna happen to our relationships?

Then I've heard the stupid argument of "It's his job to still do this!" So, what exactly is your job? To tell him just how independent you are and can be? To tell him you don't need him while he's trying his best? To remind him that although he just made the great effort to make you happy, you can just get up and leave his no-good ass just because you're independent? 

Ladies, you have to shape up. We really can't take any more from the cat-o-nine of liberation. If a man is doing a good job, commend him, suggest what he could do to enhance, but don't bash.

 Men, you have to be more reliable. Honesty is the best policy. If you can't manage the responsibility, just say so or walk away. 

There's a lotta detail missing but I'm done ranting now. As you were.

Blah.

The urgent and fervent desire to change, from thought to action it seems very strange. Epiphanies and bad decisions later, what's left of me I'm trying to savor! Time isn't running out, yet it is, I wanna close the deal, wanna be done with this. I see what pleases me well, but could it be that I'm going to hell? Avoiding reality while staring it dead-on in the eye: "I can't live without you, it'd hurt to try." My connection is severed and I can't do it by myself, yet I have to do it alone; nobody else. In the search for fulfillment I made a false start, but it would seem as though I've already given away my heart! Now what do I have to work with? Nothing at all, unless I take it back before I fall..deeper in!

Denied

The thing is, I'd do it without question, or even a second thought. But hey, that's just me. It's true what they say though. Family: Sometimes related by blood and nothing else.

What Now?

The sleepless nights to the assurance. The I love you and please buy that ring for insurance. The smile returning and the happiness at peak...everything man, week after week. Homework and the many papers completed..advice until the well was almost depleted..Where did it all go? From the rings to the dress to that matrimonial account..now you look at me with resentment, what's that about? You sold it to me, every bit of it..now I'm the one left here in this dark place to sit..you didn't even say you're sorry..I mean, you might think because I'm a guy you don't need to worry..Karma is a chick of deviant character..so watch what you do and watch what comes after!

Double Standard

In today's world, women are at and are still coming to the forefront. They are taking charge and they demand equality. I have no problem with that. It's all good and well. Why is it that when situations don't suit them they seek to beg for mercy claiming that they're the weaker ones and equality no longer matters for that single moment. They want to get ahead professionally by being equal with men but emotionally they still want to be protected. Double standard if you ask me.

Live Life With No Regrets, Only Lessons Learned = B.S

How many times have you heard, "Live Life With No Regrets, Only Lessons Learned." In my opinion, if we do things that put put anyone or more importantly ourselves at a disadvantage, we have to be sorry and make amends. Being apologetic doesn't mean that you're weak. In fact, a true a apology is one of the best manifestations of a strong character, superior judgment and integrity.
We must take care though to observe the process and it's correct administration. Don't dwell on the past and it's mistakes. Make it right (even with yourself) and move on. This is paramount, or else we'll just keep making the same mistakes over and over. What is the purpose of learning lessons if they wont be used for character building and wisdom? For the sake of knowledge? Rubbish. Maybe if we put them to use we wouldn't make the same mistakes over and over. Ignoring the mistakes, leaving them unevaluated and unresolved only leaves us susceptible to making them again.. "Live Life With No Regrets, Only Lessons Learned." = B.S... Something to think about...Be Genuinely Sorry, Learn Lessons, Move On Whilst Applying These Lessons...@ least that's how I see it.

Escape...

A trap, a cage, a prison? A deliberate attempt and clever attempt to fool the trapped into thinking they're actually free...until the side effects begin to surface..It's different from the traditional snares whose evils can normally be spotted from a thousand miles away..In order to escape I have to define it..By the time I think about it, it's time to engage in another of its supposed liberties..I guess human nature would be the closest thing to an excuse for this behavior..but..what is there to escape from? How can a myriad of side effects compare to a few hours, @ times minutes, of 'fun'? Suddenly, while writing this, I realize that this is not new...It's been happening forever..What's new is my resolve to escape, which I must do, in order to 'live', but then again, time is promised to no man. Shucks...All I have is now!